Guest: Leanne Blaney - Adventure After 40. YOU BET! This is real! Adventure is so important and this week, Leanne Blaney and Carrie talk about what it like turning 40 and what the concept of adventure mean to both now. Leanne is a balance and adventure coach! She challenges the concept of work/life/balance. This conversation is about inner balance and figuring out what fills us with the feeling of adventure. leanneblaney.com
Technology can get in the way of us being in the moment, being mindful of our present experience.
Have you been on a train where everyone’s head is down looking at their phones and not seeing their surroundings, or at a concert where there are hundreds of phones in the air taking photos, recording, doing selfies or out to dinner and the person or people you are with are more interested in what is happening on their phones than being there in the moment with you?
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Mindfulness will help with developing your compassion skills. To change the orientation of your mind, the practice of becoming mindful can be what breaks us out of the cycle of busyness and disconnectedness that we are in.
The way to happiness, balance and well-being is through mindfulness. It can make us calmer and become more centred. We pay attention to being in the present intentionally. There is no judgement, it is acknowledging our feelings and accepting them.
Do you feel compassion for yourself and others?
Do you know how to be compassionate?
To have compassion or be compassionate is to ‘suffer’ with others. It is not just empathy where we can understand the feelings of others. It is having empathy and acting upon it. It is helping others and we who are suffering. Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us the tranquility and happiness we all seek. — the Dalai Lama
The key to compassio
Remember as children jumping over the rocks, sliding down the sand dunes, swimming in the river, skimming rocks over the pond, jumping in the rain puddles, making mud pies. Why do we stop doing this?
I know with my own daughter I was reluctant to let her outside and play because I was bombarded by messages that it was dirty, germy, unsafe and really unhealthy. Now her immune system is weak, and she suffers from many allergies. If I listened to my heart to get out more
How often do you get out into nature?
Do you know what the benefits of being in nature are?
Nature is healing, inspiring, peaceful, grounding, and it does not judge, nature just is. Nature is beauty. By experiencing it and spending time interacting with nature we can harvest so many benefits as well as feeling happier and healthier.
It allows us to recharge our batteries, stop draining our brain, relax and stress less and it give us a sense to get away from it all.
We have spoken of the only thing we have control of is ourselves and we are our greatest enemies when we get caught up in the blaming game, beating ourselves up for doing something and creating pain within our life.
To become self aware is to awaken our emotional world where we can control our responses, we can understand how we hold ourselves back, why we react a certain way.
So, to get to know yourself and awaken your emotional world, the first step is to know which e
We can all develop emotional intelligence by spending a little bit of time and effort into improving how we think, feel and respond to the people around us and our surroundings. Emotional Intelligence (EQ or EI) is a term created by two researchers – Peter Salavoy and John Mayer – and popularised by Dan Goleman in his 1996 book of the same name. EI is the ability to: 1. Recognise, understand and manage our own emotions. 2. Recognise, understand and influence the emotions of o
How awake are you to your life? Do you consider yourself to be a self-aware person? Are you aware of your emotional and spiritual world? Self-Awareness is knowing your true self. It is knowing your values, beliefs, attitudes, strengths, limitations. It is also about being honest and genuine with yourself. When you are honest and genuine with yourself you can be open, honest and genuine within your relationships. I have found that self-aware people will be proactive with life
Saying yes to you is the key. Commit to taking action. Act so you create meaning and purpose and balance in your life. Once you start building that muscle to saying yes to you and taking action it will become easier. Life will flow with the balance that you crave. You will stop living in fear. Start by changing your language and using words of positive action or choice. I could, instead of I should I am totally responsible, instead of it is not my fault Life is an adventure,
Learn about yourself and what sparks you up. Recruit a friend, your spouse, your children. Enjoy it! Imagine a life with energy, lightness, balance, fun, happiness and love all from starting with moving, taking action and to be an active participant of your life. Exercising or moving also allows us to free up headspace. It can put you into the present and switch off the rational or logical mind. It allows space and patience to move from stagnation to inspiration, it helps sol
Do you allow fear to stop you from taking action? Are you actively working on your mindset? Do you have regular movement or exercise in your daily routine? In my late 30s at the time of rock bottom, my weight was high, my mindset was negative and self-defeating and my life was crap. I was stuck in the hamster wheel where I would wake up, go to work, come home, watch TV, go to bed and repeat each day. I felt sluggish, had no energy, was unhappy with my body and clothes and emb
Using both of the energies in a balanced way gives us more energy, makes us happier, nurtured and feel loved. By women being more in the masculine our men have felt emasculated, they are angrier, more aggressive, less loving. When women are working more in higher corporate jobs, have their own successful businesses and by doing this they are in the masculine longer, they forget how to turn it off which stunts their creativity. Women who are exhausted and tired must tap into t
Love is also an action. You can do love. You can show love. If you have read the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman we can love people with their favourite Love Language. There is nothing more rewarding as being able to shower our significant people with love in their favourite love language. Choose from giving words of affirmation, having quality time with your loved one, giving gifts to those that love receiving gifts, carry out acts of service for your loved one, or use phys
Do you love yourself? Do you feel comfortable asking yourself this? Loving yourself is the only true way to love another without judgement. Many of us do not feel comfortable saying I love myself, it is seen as egotistical or difficult. The fact we are uncomfortable with saying this is the egotistical part. We are letting the EGO dictate how we feel about ourselves. I want to know if you can look at yourself in the mirror and really appreciate what you see. Every bump, blemis
Do you love learning? Are you a life long learner? Are you part of the 90% who learn because you have to? Or are you the 10% that learn because you want to? Only 10% of the world’s population are Activated Life Long Learners. This means that the Activated Life Long Learners are proactive with their personal, emotional, spiritual and professional development. These people are the high performing, self-managing types. They invest in themselves and love to learn. They light up
Prioritise time for yourself. Time to maintain your sense of control on life and do the things that keep you resilient. The following exercise is a quick and easy way to see what takes up your time and whether you have enough time and energy left for yourself to allow you to get through the tough times. What’s filling your bucket? Draw a bucket like the diagram. Start drawing in the things that take your time up like family, work, sleep, exercise. Do you have room at the top?
The lies we tell ourselves are that to be a good mother, good partner, good person we must have a clean and tidy house, be superwoman in all areas of our life for others, to please everyone else and put ourselves last. I heard a story of the burnt chop. A mother always cooked dinner for her family (spouse and 2 kids). One time a chop was burnt. Who got the burnt chop – the mother, every time something like this happened, she put everyone else’s needs first. This is not health
Routines can be good for some stability but if your whole life is full of routines and rituals this can mean boredom, no time to be impulsive or spontaneous. You keep doing the same routines you did for years when you should be changing them up as our circumstances change. Keep life fun, entertaining and creative by ditching the boredom of unhelpful routines. Have variety and fun as a regular part of your life. For example, I had a routine with my daughter when she was a baby
Do you take yourself too seriously? Do you have heavy energy and lots of negativity in your life? Are you weighed down by life? Life can feel heavy, like having the world upon your shoulders. I am sure you have heard that before. We constantly worry about the future, take things too personally, wish away our lives, overreact and suffer from procrastination, overwhelm and sadness. These are burdens in our mind, body, emotions and spirit. When you have lightness in your life th